David Essel

The Two Keys To Deep Love: Patience And Kindness

Someone once asked me that if there were two keys to love, to a loving relationship, what did I think they would be? Without hesitation, I answered patience and kindness, and I'd love to tell you why. Last week at my niece's wedding, she asked me to do... Read >

Failure Is The Path To Success

One of the greatest facts in life is that if we truly desire success, we're going to have to accept failure as a part of the process of being successful. For many in the new thought world, who want to simply keep their mind on "positive thinking", this wi... Read >

Tears of Love That Heal: Making Men and Women Grow

As my client walks his girlfriend through the airport to her gate, she turns to say how excited she is to explore a new city, and sees tears rolling down his face. She had no idea these were tears of love, tears of personal growth. Her questioning goes... Read >

Dating: The Keys to Creating The Love You Desire

If you want to become more at peace in the world of dating, you will have to begin to actually love the challenge of dating. I know at first this may seem like an insane concept, but let me explain. My client enters the office this week, throws down he... Read >

Risk It All For Love: Never Play It Safe

As we examine the reason for our existence on planet Earth, it has become easier to see over the years that it truly is all about the quest for love, and with this as the conclusion for the reason for living, we should never play it safe when it comes to ... Read >

The Two Sides Of Love

Anyone who truly wants to experience love has to be ready to delve into ALL of love, the two sides of love. The one side you dream and fantasize about that is readily described in romantic novels, as well as the side that rarely gets mentioned, the side t... Read >

Is It Ok To Be Mad at God?

My client was filled with absolute guilt and rage, as she tried to deal with the anger that she held against God. "Is it ok to be this mad at God? For all that he's done, and hasn't done?" I had been down this road many times before with clients who ha... Read >

Soul Mates: A Different Perspective on Love--Are You Ready?

Through my interviews over the years with authors like Deepak Chopra, Barbara De Angelis, and others, my perspective of what it means to be a "soul mate" has changed dramatically. For the longest period of time, if someone was my soul mate, which I was l... Read >

Do you think you know what the face of an addict looks like?

For years I had a hidden addiction, an addiction that many people have struggled with but even more would never believe or understand; a block to personal success as well as to my Higher Power, or God. I was a binge cocaine addict. When many find this ... Read >

The Joy of Silence in Conversation: An Oxymoron?

When I mentioned to a friend the other day that sometimes I really enjoy being with someone and not talking, simply being present with them, where the conversation dwindles and we are just in each other's energy, she looked at me and said, "What? You mean... Read >

Is positive thinking the answer to our challenges? The answer may surprise you...

For many people in our country who are struggling today, there is hope that lies within the thought that if they just begin thinking in a positive way, their lives will be destined to find the success they so badly want. But, this may not actually be th... Read >